What is daddy-ness and why is it sexy all-of-the-sudden? I tell you true: for many years, after coming to terms with my dead daddy issues, I have been “daddy” in bed. I consider it my sexual gender.
Sexual gender, not to be confused with gender identification, is a term I coined that describes the mechanics and mindset of a person having sex. I’m not the same person as I am on the street as I am in (or on top of, near, in between, or sans) the sheets.
Daddy is my sexual gender, however, as I have dealt with body dysmorphia and gender nonconformity in a society that expects conformity, I know: I’m a faggot. But, that does not determine how I treat my men (or whatevs).
What is “daddy” sex? It is what it is, and that’s what it is. It’s also how I like it: raunchy, pit-sniffing, commanding, degrading, and to somehow questionable to a party not “into” that. You see, I’m a faggot. That’s how I iD my gender and sexuality. Sometimes I even use the term faggot or fag as a term of endearment.
Butt, I fuck like a “daddy.”
I’m a genderqueer person (-ish), but when the lights are off, the disco ball above my bed is spinning, the door is shut, and there’s some cute boy butt for dinner, I’m “daddy.” Not a “dad”- just a daddy.
Why does this get me off though?
Likely it’s because my father (insert: dad, papa) was somehow both present and absent in my life and my mother “wore the pants” in the family. My dad’s dead now, or whatever- cancer- so let’s just talk about ME.
You may be surprised that when these FEM AF super high waisted bell-bottom jeans come off, I’m daddy… fully-equipped with my daddy dick, salt-n-pepper-ing hair, and bossy attitude.
Maybe it’s because I thirst for the submissive role in the (goal of a) relationship?
The bossy attitude, though, is what the cools kids are starting to appropriate into their vernacular.
You see, if you’ve mastered a craft, are good at a chore, or are showing someone how to do something, nowadays, you’re a “daddy” of that craft/chore/what-have-you.
If you don’t like this re-claim of the word “daddy” I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry. It’s here to stay for at least a little while. For we can’t pick our parents, but we can dictate who our “daddies” are.
You want pizza? Call your friend who didn’t just max our their credit card, and ask them politely to be your pizza daddy. Don’t know how to use a shoe horn? Maybe your pal can be your show horn daddy. Need help tidying up? Ask someone to be your chore daddy. OH, and just so you know: it’s 2018 now, so, this whole “daddy” thing is genderless. Gays, gals, boiz, femz, butch AFz, and everything in between can be daddies.